Copyright © 2021 Roswell Daily Record
Copyright © 2021 Roswell Daily Record
By Wendolyn Davis
Special to the Daily Record
Who is excited for a new year? Have you set your goals in hopes of improving yourself because you want to feel better mentally or physically? After all, who doesn’t want to feel better? The new year is all about a fresh start where we hope to begin something new and create something great with our life. It’s an opportunity to look inward and ponder our life and ask ourselves questions. Are you getting the results you want? Are you where you want to be? Where do you want to improve? What do you want to accomplish this year? What are your wellness goals? Here are four tips for making a better version of yourself this year — no matter what is going on around you.
Be aware of your beliefs
Awareness is the key to changing anything. If you want to know why you do what you do or why you feel a certain way, start paying attention to your beliefs. A belief is simply a thought that we have practiced over and over. And this creates all the results we have in our life. What are you consistently telling yourself? I work with clients who tell themselves they aren’t good enough. They set goals to exercise or eat better, but when they mess up, they start beating themselves up and quit trying to exercise or they say who cares about food and they eat whatever they want. And then they feel bad about themselves and they create more evidence that they can’t reach their goals. They beat themselves up and reinforce their belief “I’m not good enough.”
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As these clients become aware of their thoughts and realize they can believe anything they want, they are able to create thoughts that inspire them, moving them forward in having the life they want. To build a belief you want, practice new thoughts over and over — like going to a gym and doing reps. Before you know it you stop beating yourself up and love yourself wherever you are in your journey. A few days ago one client said, “I’m just gonna be me and I’m OK if others don’t like me. I have so much fun being me.” She has dropped the belief that she’s not good enough, and she is moving forward with creating the life that she wants.
Focus on making small changes consistently
Small changes done consistently are the secret to building positive changes in your life. Let’s say you have a goal to exercise five days a week. You have it planned out but don’t have enough time one day. You think you can’t do it because exercise is supposed to be a whole workout. What if you just did stretches for 5 minutes or went on a short walk? This will keep you committed to your goal. Or maybe you want to lose weight? Pick one thing to work on at a time.
One client started eating more fruit instead of cookies and has lost a few pounds. Now she’s ready for the next step. She loves being able to break down her goal into bite-size pieces and celebrate what she is accomplishing. It’s the small things that add up to great things. What do you want to start doing? Now break it down to small steps that you can accomplish even under limitations of time, energy and motivation.
Our thoughts come and go so quickly that we aren’t usually aware of them. When we are stressed, it’s because of what we are thinking. Don’t believe me? Next time you are feeling stressed, stop and take note of what you are thinking. Are you worried about something, someone? Are you thinking about all the things you need to do and how you don’t have time? We all have up to 60,000 thoughts a day. Learning to think on purpose and journaling is like having your own therapy session.
Use your journal to write what you love about yourself, things you’re worried about, things that you want to do for the day, things that might get in your way and how you can solve that. Write what you are worried about and what you wish were different. Notice what you are currently thinking and what you want to be thinking. What do you have control over? Write about your goals. What excuses are getting in your way? What are you going to do to work through them? This doesn’t have to take a lot of time. Getting your thoughts on paper helps you see what you are creating and whether they are helping you reach your goal of creating the life you want.
Say positive affirmations
We may not realize that our potential is buried by a lot of negativity. Affirmations are short, simple, powerful expressions. I am strong. I am unstoppable in reaching my goals. I am the creator or whatever I dream. Things are always working out for me. Everything is “figure-out-able.” Words have incredible power and when they are spoken, they are 10 times more powerful.
Affirmations might not feel true but when you say, think and hear them, they become thoughts that create reality. Pick a few “I am” statements, write them down where you can see them and say them throughout the day. This will also aid in creating new beliefs that help you become your best self: “I am creating the life I want one step at a time.”
Last year was one of my best years ever, because I learned these tips. And this year is going to be even better, because I readily apply them as I continue my journey of showing up as my best self. Who else is ready to become their best self and make the most of this year? Whatever your goals or dreams, be aware of your beliefs, focus on making small consistent changes, journal and declare positive affirmations. Let’s make this year the best ever!
If you are serious about wanting a better version of yourself and want help building strategies to work through obstacles, sign up for a free consultation on my webpage. Let me show you what’s possible.
Wendolyn (Wakefield) Davis is a new columnist for the Vision section of the Roswell Daily Record. The Roswell-native graduated from Goddard High School and has a bachelor’s degree in social work and a master’s degree in educational psychology. Davis worked as a social worker at a nursing home facility in Salt Lake City, Utah and taught for 12 years Kindermusik in Lake Villa, Illinois before returning to Roswell in 2010 with her husband of 32 years. The couple have three children and one grandson.
Davis is passionate about physical and mental wellness due to having bouts of anxiety and depression in her past. Her research guided her into becoming a certified health coach in 2016 and as of March 2020, Davis became a certified life and weight loss coach.
“I live my life on purpose with purpose and it’s the best thing ever,” she said. Next to working for a functional medicine doctor — online with Zoom or FaceTime — Davis works at Sunset Villa Care Center as a social work consultant. She is looking forward to sharing her findings with others. For more information, check out her free 21-day challenge on her Facebook group page Weight loss and Wellness with Wendolyn, which kicked off Jan. 2, if you are serious about wanting a better version of yourself, or sign up for a free consultation at wellnesswithwendolyn.com.